Meet Damaris Messina

Whether officiating a wedding or making a city hotel the place to be, this busy North Smithfield mom does it all with style


As director of sales at Aloft Providence Downtown, you seem to be making your signature “never boring” imprint on the place. Tell us about your efforts to make the hotel a nightlife destination.  

My goal is to create a destination with a vibrant hotel social scene and an innovative music scene through our LIVE@Aloft performances. I want to create a community of followers that’s always on the lookout of what’s next at Aloft because the unexpected happens here!


And you’re a wedding officiant?

I’m ordained through the American Marriage Ministries and can perform ceremonies in any state. My best friend was having a small ceremony and asked me to perform their ceremony. I was honored and humbled and took the job very seriously. It was by far one of the coolest and most humbling things I’ve done so far. 


What is your biggest piece of advice for couples who want to be married by a wedding officiant? What should they know or do?  

Do your research and be sure to meet them in person. Interview them as if it were for a job. They should be able to align with your personality and vision for your special day. Be sure to review your goals for the tone for the ceremony and day. They should be open and willing to help and guide you through the process, able to customize the ceremony to your needs, and be open to answering any questions you have. They should be familiar with the state marriage laws and have the marriage license completed, signed, and mailed/dropped off post the ceremony in a timely manner. When in doubt, ask a special person in your life to get ordained to perform your ceremony. It’s always a memorable moment for both the couple and the person getting ordained. 


A peek at your Instagram @fabulouslydamaris shows that not only are you a fashionista, but also a down-to-earth mom and wife ready to go camping or hop on a plane at a moment’s notice. How do you balance it all? 

I have an amazing support system and an incredible husband who cheers me on every step of the way. 


When you’re not working, where are your favorite independently owned places to shop, dine, and hang out in Providence? 

Providence is so quaint; I love finding trendy pieces at NAVA on Wickenden Street and local home accessories and gifting ideas at Homestyle on Westminster. I enjoy discovering new bars and restaurants with friends or learning a new skill with my husband like taking a class with New Harvest Coffee Roasters on the art of espresso. My favorite restaurant without a doubt is Red Stripe – their Portuguese Mussels & Frites are obnoxiously delicious and always consistent. I love the lively atmosphere, service, and sourdough bread – simply delish!


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